A story trended on social media a while ago (started via Twitter basically).
Like social media actually went agog because of tweets from a guy who literally threw insulting "subs" at a girl he took out on a date, questioning why she accepted to go on a date with him, if she knew she wasn't interested in a relationship.
Although he has formally and informally apologised to her, we do realise the need for people to also understand the major differences between "dating" and "being in a relationship".
But before we delve into why we are here AKA why we think you need to know the differences, check out what the hashtags: 5KBae and Keepthechangebae mean in the first place;
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Okay, so moving on. if we all going to be honest about this, we would agree that a lot of people make the mistake of assuming they are on the same page with someone they like, based on vibes they interpret as "mutual". without having "the talk" or getting clear about stuff in general.
The guy in the above scenario maybe seems to have gotten the wrong vibe due to a lack of proper communication and or assumption, between him and the girl, and of course handled his rejection in that way.
So what are the differences between dating and relationship that we ought to know to avoid situations like this?
Let's share at least 3 definitions from our research:
Dating vs. Relationships
The main difference between dating and being in a relationship is that people in a relationship are connected by a mutual commitment to each other. You and the person you are with, have agreed, either officially or unofficially, that you’re seeing each other exclusively and are in a partnership together. (Zoosk.com)
There is a definite line between dating someone and being in a relationship with someone. Dating is getting to know someone. It can even involve getting to know several people at one time. Being in a relationship is when you have decided that the person that you have dated is someone that you would like to get to know better. The possibility of marriage or a long term commitment looms at this point. (Exclusivestandards.com)
The difference between dating and being in a relationship is commitment. If you are going out with someone on a regular basis, and you and your partner have agreed to date only one another, then you are in a committed relationship. However, if you are dating a person and neither of you have agreed to date exclusively, then you are not in a relationship and you are both free to also date other people. (Datingtips)
Do the above definitions make any sense to you? Yes?
So now let's establish key things to note from these definitions.
Dating basically means getting to know someone, while being in a relationship is based on the MUTUAL decision to get to know each other better AKA takes things further.
Now that we've established differences, it is therefore important to note that it is necessary, although oftentimes awkward, (especially when there's no likelihood of dating, successfully going directly into a relationship) to actually have "The Talk", a.k.a "What are we", with like/love interests, to know whether you are both on the same page, regarding whatever "name tag" you want to place on your relationship. Casual Or committed?
Right?
Especially in cases where you feel like you need "answers", assurance, surety of where a "ship" is heading.
Why? It honestly will save time and definitely avoid complications.
It honestly is never safe to assume that someone wants the same thing that you do, or that someone is on the same wavelength as you, based on the adrenaline rush, if you don't openly talk about the progressive "feelings".
Girls and boys oftentimes think differently and that's a constant reminder. Because for instance, a girl could just want to casually date a guy, while same guy would want a serious relationship.
To therefore find balance, both need to talk about what they both want, in the short and long run, then see if a compromise can be reached if needed.
At least, there would be an understanding and pedal on expectations on both end.
Rejections are unavoidable and hurtful no doubt, but proper communication will at least help us choose better ways on how to react.
So in summary, proper communication between two people is important, so as to avoid stories that touch and a proper mental preparation and reaction to rejections.
Now what do you think about this article?
Agree or Nah?
Do tell.
We look forward to reading your comments.
The main difference between dating and being in a relationship is that people in a relationship are connected by a mutual commitment to each other. You and the person you are with, have agreed, either officially or unofficially, that you’re seeing each other exclusively and are in a partnership together. (Zoosk.com)
There is a definite line between dating someone and being in a relationship with someone. Dating is getting to know someone. It can even involve getting to know several people at one time. Being in a relationship is when you have decided that the person that you have dated is someone that you would like to get to know better. The possibility of marriage or a long term commitment looms at this point. (Exclusivestandards.com)
The difference between dating and being in a relationship is commitment. If you are going out with someone on a regular basis, and you and your partner have agreed to date only one another, then you are in a committed relationship. However, if you are dating a person and neither of you have agreed to date exclusively, then you are not in a relationship and you are both free to also date other people. (Datingtips)
Do the above definitions make any sense to you? Yes?
So now let's establish key things to note from these definitions.
- MUTUAL COMMITMENT/AGREEMENT provides the answer to knowing the legit difference between dating and being in a relationship.
- Dating is non exclusive, relationship is exclusive (at least all things being equal)
- Dating does not involve commitment, Relationship involves commitment.
Now that we've established differences, it is therefore important to note that it is necessary, although oftentimes awkward, (especially when there's no likelihood of dating, successfully going directly into a relationship) to actually have "The Talk", a.k.a "What are we", with like/love interests, to know whether you are both on the same page, regarding whatever "name tag" you want to place on your relationship. Casual Or committed?
Right?
Especially in cases where you feel like you need "answers", assurance, surety of where a "ship" is heading.
Why? It honestly will save time and definitely avoid complications.
It honestly is never safe to assume that someone wants the same thing that you do, or that someone is on the same wavelength as you, based on the adrenaline rush, if you don't openly talk about the progressive "feelings".
Girls and boys oftentimes think differently and that's a constant reminder. Because for instance, a girl could just want to casually date a guy, while same guy would want a serious relationship.
To therefore find balance, both need to talk about what they both want, in the short and long run, then see if a compromise can be reached if needed.
At least, there would be an understanding and pedal on expectations on both end.
Rejections are unavoidable and hurtful no doubt, but proper communication will at least help us choose better ways on how to react.
So in summary, proper communication between two people is important, so as to avoid stories that touch and a proper mental preparation and reaction to rejections.
Now what do you think about this article?
Agree or Nah?
Do tell.
We look forward to reading your comments.
Meanwhile incase you missed the post on "He doesn't want a relationship with me", you can read it Here.
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ReplyDeletethanks for the tips and information..i really appreciate it.. Relatietherapie Zaandam
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