Being Emotionally Vulnerable - Is It A Good Or Bad Thing?

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"He said you were too emotionally vulnerable", my close friend uttered, as she explained the reason a guy she introduced to me, gave to her,  as his reason for not wanting to "take things further" with me.

My reaction to his talk went from laughter to anger to sadness. 

Reallyyyyyy?

I mean really?

He really said that?

I am too emotionally vulnerable?

Reallllyyyy?

"I'm never going to genuinely open up to guys  about feelings they have awoken in me" again then". I retort to myself!

"You know what "fuck it", on the contrary, it was his and every other guy's loss, for not seeing me as worthy enough to stress for, and for coming on strong, and running away at the slightest sight of emotion or feeling from my end, when I know that I am worthy enough to be loved (Yet a part of me feels like it was my loss too. Why?).....

Plus their ignorance on the fact that not emotionally connecting with me,

was detrimental to them not understanding that aspect of me, although sad, is what would have helped them understand why I am emotionally vulnerable.

But in the first place, why the heck is anyone regarding "emotional vulnerability" as a problem?"

Seriously??"

Does the above scenario sound familiar or relatable to you in anyway?

What is emotional vulnerability to you? 

And is society not to be blamed for making us think vulnerability is a sign of weakness? 

"Boys shouldn't cry, it's a sign of weakness", Girls shouldn't tell boys they like them because yeah yeah", men run from emotionally vulnerable people so don't be emotionally vulnerable o, *inserts other stressful quotes*

It's why a lot of people are messed up.

Thinking before feeling!

Instead of feeling before thinking!

Or don't you think so?

Although vulnerability gives room for heartbreak, hurt, and disappointment; avoiding it won't allow us enjoy and learn from life's experiences, and won't let us be our authentic honest selves either.

So if for anything, vulnerability is a sign of strength, and should be appreciated and applauded. (Lonerwolf)

Being emotional simply says you are human, in sync with your emotions and feelings, not afraid, and genuine enough to open up your heart to someone, hoping he/she would be capable of literally holding /catching you when you fall.

Therefore, if someone is listing emotional vulnerability as a "problem" and or reason for not seeing the need to build anything with you, it simply is their incapability of making an effort to understand you.
Because let's face it, we are almost all vulnerable!

So does the person really deserve something real with you at all in the first place?

Plus if vulnerability is a bridge to emotionally connecting with someone who acts like they like you, is this not you technically making an effort to foster or build something?

So I guess it's to look forward to meeting people who can mutually relate with you on that level/ emotionally connect with you right?

Yeah?

You could as well literally middle finger those who say that that part of you is a problem then, while you justifiably hurt and find ways to move on with your self loving bad ass self to something better. :)

                   *****Anonymous Writer*****